MSP16_Logo-Full-TurquoiselogoLime Culture is working in partnership with Male Survivors Partnership to develop quality standards for services supporting male survivors of sexual abuse, rape and sexual exploitation  Funded by a grant from the Lloyds Bank Foundation for England & Wales, this two-year project, beginning in May 2017, will see new quality standards developed and rolled out across the UK.

For males who have experienced sexual violation, these new standards and the accreditation process that goes with them will give a layer of reassurance about the quality of the services they are accessing at a time when they are feeling most vulnerable.

In order to support the development of the quality standards we are conducting a survey with male survivors to understand their views and experiences of support services.

This survey will be open for an 8-week period. The survey opens on Friday 21 July and closes on Friday 15 September 2017.


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New charity for male sex abuse victims launches in Mansfield

Launch MENding UK

Nicci Robinson, (right) with Roger Garrett, charity steward, from the Provincial Grand Lodge of Nottinghamshire (second right) and members, workers and volunteers at MENding UK.

MENding UK opened on 13th August 2015 at an event at its office on Byron Street, Mansfield. The charity was launched due to the lack of services for male survivors of childhood sexual abuse and domestic violence – both recent and historic. This comes after it was discovered that around 1 in 7 men have sustained some form of sexual abuse before the age of 16.

MENding UK will operate under the umbrella of its sister charity S.H.E. UK, which offers a similar service for women. It is only the second charity of this type in the whole county.

Nicci Robinson, chief executive of both charities, said: “It has been a long held ambition of the trustees of the charity to develop a similar service for male survivors. There’s very little for female survivors but even less for male survivors. But it’s harder for men to come out and declare themselves as victims because of social pressures. There is a feeling of failure and shame.”

Services will be provided by health professionals and trained specialists.

Users can contact the charity directly or may also be referred through professionals such as doctors, social workers or the police force. MENding can provide therapy, peer support groups, creative therapies and adult learning groups to help victims overcome what has happened to them.

Nicci added: “This type of abuse really does destroy lives. It’s very difficult, emotional work and my staff have to be particularly emotionally resilient to go with the day-to-day running of these services. But when a member comes in and is in a really bad place and months later we have helped them to improve, that is really powerful stuff.”

The charity has also got a new angle on connecting with their users – through the use of Facebook. They launched this digital service with S.H.E UK in 2013 and Nicci says it has helped them save lives.

She said: “It’s a good point of contact for some people who might find talking face-to-face or on the phone difficult. Over a keyboard is sometimes easier.”

The biggest funders of the new charity are Nottinghamshire Freemasons, with a grant of £1800, and the Thomas Farr charity have also contributed.

(The original version of this article was published in the Mansfield Chad and can be accessed here.)

Welcome to MENding UK. We are a UK Charity based in Nottinghamshire that offers a holistic range of support for male survivors of sexual abuse and domestic violence (historic and recent).

We also offer bespoke training and conferences for organisations and companies who would like to know more about these areas, in addition to training staff, expanding their knowledge base and showing them how to deal sensitively with these issues.

If you click on the Resources and Media section on the bar above and select the Blog and Gallery links, you’ll be able to see updates and news on what we’ve been doing.

If you’d like to know more about MENding UK, please get in touch with us – you can find our contact details on the sidebar to the right, and also on our Contact Us page.

Have you experienced sexual abuse?

  • Do you suffer from depression or low self worth?
  • Do you feel your emotions are very intense and painful or even non-existent?
  • Do you find it difficult to eat, sleep or concentrate?
  • Do you find yourself withdrawing from people?
  • Are you using alcohol or drugs to help you to cope?
  • Are your relationships suffering?
  • Are you finding it difficult to trust other people?

MENding UK offers men’s support groups, providing space to connect with peers in a relaxed environment focusing on strength, perseverance and camaraderie. You can also access evaluative need therapy, and interventions in many other areas. We have a highly trained and dedicated staff team here for you – all you need is the courage to take a step in our direction and trust us with your story. Is this your time to take control?